Growing New Concepts

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Recently I signed up for a course to teach mehow to improve my business (my life) through teleseminars. I cried over the cost, but am deeply appreciative of the content that has redirected my mindset into a more productive one. There are 8 sessions. I just completed module one, and I am already transformed, and I have made new contacts and friends.

I always thought creativity was the big ticket to success. Now I understand how being an innovator, one who improves on an idea is better. This new thinking (for me) has made a big impact.

The other tidbit I LOVE from this course is this: You are not interesting until you are interested! LOVE that!  That goes for everything you do in life …. think about that one!

I will keep  you posted on this – it is life changing.

The course?

Alex Mandossian’s Teleseminar Secrets

Lesly :-)

U Smile Radio Tonight 9:00 PM/EST

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Coach Ellen Goldman will grace the airwaves this evening  at 9:00 PM/EST. Show link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/usmile

Getting through the Holiday Season with Ease is the topic. I am sure there are folks out there who are having challenges. We’ll talk about this and some tips for managing it all .

Tune in!

About Ellen:

Ellen Goldman is a nationally known healthy lifestyle and fitness expert, who has inspired, trained, coached, and presented to thousands of individuals throughout the country.  She has been featured on the TV show, Eye on New York, a guest on several internet radio shows, and has had articles published in periodicals such as the Jewish News, Personal Fitness Professional, and the American College of Sports Medicine Health & Fitness Journal.  She is a contributing author to the ACSM’s Exercise Professionals’ Manual and featured in Entrepreneur Magazine’s Start Up Series, Start Your Own Personal Training Business.  Ellen is also the author of the forthcoming book, Mastering the Inner Game of Dieting: It’s Not About Eating Grapefruit!

Ellen Goldman is a Sustain Your Energy for Life expert.  She created her company, EnerG Coaching, LLC to help individuals struggling with health issues that can be impacted by positive lifestyle change, such as weight loss, stress management, getting fit and strong, and life/work balance.  Through her one-on-one coaching, group coaching, seminars, workshops and motivational talks, Ellen energizes clients to kick the quick fix mentality, and create programs that fit into their unique life situations. 

Ellen is a Wellcoaches-certified wellness coach (ACSM endorses Wellcoaches coach certifications), and is a faculty member of Wellcoaches Corporation, which offers wellness coach training to health and fitness professionals. She holds a BS and Masters in Physical Education, and is certified by American College of Sports Medicine, Aerobic and Fitness Association of America, and Wellcoaches Corporation. Learn more about her fitness and wellness coaching programs, and receive two free quizzes to assess your readiness to make positive changes in your life, when you subscribe to Fitness & Wellness From the Inside Out Monthly Tips at http://www.EnerGcoaching.com For additional information on EnerG Coaching programs, private coaching with Ellen, or inviting Ellen to speak to your company or organization, please contact her at 973-535-8891 or ellen@EnerGcoaching.com

Ellen lives in New Jersey with her husband and two daughters.

Lesly :-)

Ladies, 12 Tips for Marriage Sanity

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 Women and Marriage…

There are many women  in unhappy marriages. 

Marriage changes who you are as a person. When you have children it takes you further away from the dreams you may have.  This has happened to me in some ways and to many other women as well.  But, here lies the challenge:  redirecting  the direction of my life. I have a son, he is the LOVE of my life, my best creation, and for him I am grateful. But, having children changes the game.  And if you are a woman, married with children,  you know what I’m talking about.  Not true for all women – just some. 

 I am what I call, “surving the cracks”.  There are some women who are thinking divorce, or getting divored, or are already divorced.  Yet there are many women who need to stay in a marriage for what ever reasons and can’t divorce -yet. Certainly, if you are in a physical or emotional abusive relationship – get out.

I’m talking about the kind of relationship that is tolerable  until you get to a place where you can change your situation.

Now, if you are a woman  in a marriage, unhappy, but don’t want a divorce yet, but bewildered, and wonder how to survive it – more importantly how to find YOURSELF in the midst of turmoil, I hope the following helps you. These are things I have done. I am not ready to divorce – but I need to focus on myself. So should you. In that will come personal strength, better problem solving, perhaps even solutions. The best part? Directing your own life and experiencing the outcomes.

1) Get a coach (I have had one for years and it has been extremely helpful for my search of self). A Coach will help you discover what you want in your life and how to go about getting it. Coaches are a GREAT resource for support, inspiration, and motivating you to get going.

2) Get supportfrom friends – but don’t tell them everything, they won’t understand and they’ll just tell someone else about your marital problems or worse!  If it’s a family member, in law etc., you run the risk of them taking sides and all that crap. Beware!

3) Create a room /place in your home that is just for you. A room with a door is best. Put your computer, CD player, a TV even in there and anything else that will comfort you in this room. This is YOUR private place, no one goes in your “castle” not even kids. Make sure you have a phone with you too.

The private castle is important because it’s a safe haven. This is where you decompress from the anxieties of your marriage, from stress. Yet it also the place where you can change your state of mind by listening to music, writing your blog, calling friends, talking to your coach in private. This is the place where finding your “self” in the midst of turmoil happens.

4) Take responsibilityfor contributing to an unhappy marriage. This is the hardest part.  As women, we are taught that a man will make us happy. A man will take care of us. What exactly does that mean? He’s the provider, the financial wizard, the decision maker, the pursuer – that’s all bunk.  We bought into that thinking that has been passed down to women for generations. It doesn’t hold true any more. Women are in a better place today (although slow in some areas) , yes, but still better.

My generation, the Baby Boomers, the women are waking up to discover themselves. So when I say, you must take responsibility for part of the unhappiness in your marriage, it means just that. It takes two to Tango.

What happens is – we expect the man to make us happy (what does that mean to you?). The truth is, the only one that can make us happy is ourselves.

To “Survive the Crack” you must be able to look at your own actions and behaviors that have added to unhappiness. Pin point them, make a choice if you are going to continue that behavior, and look within yourself to make yourself happy.

5) Journal. Unleash your feelings in a journal – get negative thoughts out of your head, read what you wrote, and reflect..

6) Keep your kids safe and uninvolved with your unhappiness.  Kids are very sensitive- they know when there is a problem. Avoid bad-mouthing your spouse in front of them. You may not want a relationship with this man, but your kids do – why screw it up for them? If he, your spouse is a real screw-up, your kids will find this out eventually and will act accordingly.

7) Always, always, always, communicate with your kids.  Let them know it’s not about them. Teach them about relationships (information appropriate by age),  there are many healthy relationships. Just because you are having problems doesn’t mean you kids will have troubled relationships.  Now, you may argue me on this point, but let me say this: Parents are the FIRST role models for children. They will learn, copy, and implement many of the behaviors you demonstrate. They absorb your behaviors. You imprint your kids!  This is where COMMUNICATION and EDUCATION can break the pattern of abuse, and other unwanted behaviors.  Parents have to recognize that children imitate first, then demonstrate the same behaviors in any given family.

8)Avoid having an affair with another man. You’re asking for trouble with this one.  Regardless if your spouse has ignored you for years, not affection, etc.  I know, you’re starved for some love and appreciation. I know, this is a challenging area. But having an affair will only add trouble. What if you do get a divorce? What if your spouse finds out? No. Just don’t go there.

9) Replace sexual energy with exercise. Channel that energy into action doing something else. Those desires will pass.

10) work on your future (although tempting). Life is a constant process of change. Your current situation will not last forever. So, what can you do today towards your tomorrow? Start a plan for change. You are not stuck in a life of doom even if you think so.

11) Be financially secure. If you don’t have a personal, separate bank account, checking, savings, get one. Be self-sufficent.

12) Read positive periodicals, books on success. Stay n apositive mindset as much as possible.  Know that a bad day doesn’t have to be a bad day ALL day. You can shift your state of mind.. go to your  personal “CASTLE”

There is light at the end of the tunnel.

L :-)

Parents You Must Read This

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I came across this article today. It was published in July 2009. Parents you have to wake-up and be proactive. Read this ….  then get Safeguard. I have it for my child and it’s great identity protection.

13 Investigates

Child identity theft: How to protect your kids

Posted: Jul 16, 2009 9:13 PM EDT Thursday, July 16, 2009 9:13 PM ESTUpdated: Jul 17, 2009 12:00 PM EDT Friday, July 17, 2009 12:00 PM EST

 Bob Segall/13 Investigates

Indianapolis – Imagine someone stealing your child’s identity. It happens to thousands of kids every year and most parents have no idea how to stop it. 13 Investigates shows you how to protect your children from this devastating crime, and it’s free.

Christina Morog had a credit card before she learned how to ride a tricycle. According to her credit report, Morog opened the credit card account when she was one year old.

“I would never open a credit card when I was one,” she said. “I didn’t do it.”

It turns out someone used Morog’s social security number to get a CitiBank credit card in 1987. She discovered the problem almost two decades later when she asked for a copy of her credit report but, by then, it was too late. The credit card linked to her social security number had a $30,000 balance.

“I was sort of in shock. I’ve never even seen $30,000,” Morog told 13 Investigates. “It’s scary because you hear about people that can never get this stuff off their credit.”

Morog’s story is not uncommon.

According to the Federal Trade Commission, there were more than 34,000 incidents of childhood identity theft between 2005 and 2007, and the actual number of cases is likely much higher because the crime often goes undetected for years.

“Bad guys love child social security numbers because it’s kind of a sleeper account,” explained Steve Ely, president of consumer services for the Equifax credit bureau. “If you can get ahold of a child’s social security number when they’re two years old, you’ve got 14, 15, 16 years of being able to use that identity without potentially getting caught.”

Four-year-old with a mortgage payment

Recent cases show why some unscrupulous adults target kids for their credit:

In January, prosecutors charged a Florida woman with stealing her 7-year-old daughter’s identity to open a credit card account. The woman faced felony charges of grand theft and fraudulent use of personal information after her estranged husband discovered a maxed-out, overdue credit card had been opened in their daughter’s name.

Earlier this year, police in California arrested a man for allegedly stealing the identity of a four-year-old child who died in 1984. Investigators from the San Bernardino County Disrict Attorney’s office said the man used the deceased boy’s identity to buy a home and a vehicle and to obtain several credit cards.

And last year near Chicago, a man was charged with felony identity theft after he allegedly created a fake social security card bearing the name and social security number of a four-year-old boy. Police say the man used the victim’s information to obtain a truck, three jobs, gas and electrical service for his home, a credit card, unemployment benefits and over $60,000 in pay and services.

“That’s scary and that’s alarming,” said Chrissy Shah, while playing with her three sons at Indianapolis’ Holliday Park. Like most parents, Shah has never checked her kids’ credit files. Because children are not supposed to have credit (and, therefore, no credit history and no credit file) most parents assume there is no reason to ask if a credit file exists.

According to Indianapolis Metropolitan Police, childhood identity theft is most often committed by parents, but teachers, coaches and babysitters have also been charged with the crime. Police say social security numbers (for both adults and children) should be provided only when absolutely necessary and should otherwise be closely protected.

Monitoring Your Kid’s Credit is Free

But with thousands of cases of childhood identity theft each year, major credit bureaus say parents shouldn’t make assumptions when it comes to their kids’ credit. And monitoring your child’s credit is free.

“We can let the parent know if indeed there is a credit file opened in that child’s name,” explained Ely. “If you were to discover that your 9-year-old has a credit file open, that would probably indicate that a bad guy has gotten ahold of their social security number and created a new identity …. If a file does exist, that’s a pretty big red flag that there’s something wrong there and you need to look into that.”

Equifax, TransUnion and Experian all allow parents to request what’s called a Minor Child Credit File Check. While the check-up is free, the credit bureaus do require parents to submit copied documentation such as a drivers license, social security card and/or birth certificate to verify identities before they will release credit file information.

If you request a file check for your kids, you’ll then be notified with one of two responses: either your child has no credit file (that’s good) or a credit file linked to your child’s social security number already exists (that’s trouble). If your child has a credit file, you will also be told what steps are needed to protect your child’s credit and identity, and how to remove any fraudulent activity from your child’s credit file.

In Morog’s case, it took nearly two years to wipe her credit file clean.

“The faster you can catch it, the less amount of problems that are going to happen,” she said. “For me, it took like eighteen years before I found out and then it feels like you’re running around in circles to get it fixed.”

Morog is now a professional financial planner who advises parents to keep an eye on their children’s credit.

“It’s so important to keep your kids’ credit in good standing for their future, and if there’s a problem, at least you can catch it when they’re young,” she said. “Everyone says ‘[identity theft] is not going to happen to me.’ It can.”

This spring, Indiana lawmakers passed a new law that stiffens penalties for childhood identity theft. The crime is now a felony punishable by two to eight years in prison.

Child Identity Theft – Parents Beware

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The beast is growing: Child identity theft. This really gets my blood boiling because this is the type of crime you can’t catch! It just happens. Children make the PERFECT victim because it will take years for a parent to discover it unless you are proactive and protect BEFORE it happens to you.  Pre Paid Legal offers a plan to protect your children from birth to age 18. It covers up to four kids for $1.00 added on to a family membership.  I can give you more information about this. Just email me. info@usmileservices.com

The impact of identity theft can be devastating for you and your child. Please live smart and protect yourselves.

L :-)

Here is a clip of info from the  Identity Theft Resource Center about Child Theft:

Fact Sheet 120
Identity Theft and Children

ABOUT THIS CRIME:

Typically identity theft falls into three categories:

Financial identity theft: This most commonly occurs when the Social Security Number (SSN) and name is used to establish new lines of credit.

What most people do not understand is that credit issuers may not have a way to verify the age of the applicant. The information on the application is typically taken at face value. This is particularly true with telephone and Internet applications. In person, few credit issuers request proof of identity, a driver’s license for instance. Even then, many clerks have not been trained on how to recognize counterfeited or altered licenses. For these reasons and others, issuers often will not know the true age of the applicant. This is a fault within our system that needs to be rectified.

A second mistaken concept is that the credit reporting agencies (CRAs) know that this application must be fraudulent because the applicant is a minor. Unfortunately, there is little, if any, sharing of information about the age of a person with Equifax, TransUnion and Experian. The age of the applicant becomes “official” with the first credit application. For example, if the first application indicates that the applicant is 24, the credit agencies believe that person is 24 until a dispute is filed and proven.

Criminal identity theft: This typically occurs when a person “borrows” the information of the minor to get a driver’s license or uses the child’s identity when caught in a criminal act. This person may be an illegal immigrant who bought the information or a relative who has had a license suspended or revoked.

Identity Cloning: Cloning is when a identity thief uses an identity for financial, criminal, and governmental purposes. Most frequently, profilers have people in positions where they are able to collect information about minors and then sell it on the black market. The most frequent purchasers of this information, in our experience, are illegal immigrants or people who are trying to “restart” their lives and avoid arrest. It is also an open door to terrorists.

Clones might also take advantage of the death of an infant or child. They go back into old newspaper records or death certificates (often found on the Internet) and find a person who would match the current imposter’s age. Then either counterfeit documents are made up or legitimate birth certificates are purchased through normal channels. Unfortunately, when a person dies, few, if any, county recorders then mark birth certificates as “deceased.” This allows thieves to purchase birth certificates of a person who has died and use it for identity theft. The ease in purchasing birth certificates depends on state laws. You should make sure your state is a “closed access” state, meaning that a limited number of people are allowed access to this information. For details on “Identity Theft and the Deceased” please go to the ITRC information guide on that topic.

MOMENT OF DISCOVERY:

Adult/Child Victims: These victims typically find out in the same manner as adult victims of identity theft. They:

  • Are denied credit, mortgage or loan for a vehicle or college tuition
  • Are unable to open a bank or checking account
  • Receive collection notices in the mail or by telephone
  • Are denied tenancy, utility or phone service
  • Are denied driver’s license renewal 
  •  Are discharged from a job or continually and unexplainably denied employment
  • Are quoted higher than normal insurance rates
  • Have been receiving bills or credit cards they never requested, perhaps for years
  • Are notified by a law enforcement agency investigating a large case in which they happen to be a part of
  • Are arrested for an activity they never committed
  • Are denied SSI or welfare services
  • Child Victims: Parents or relatives are usually the first to notice something is not quite right. Some of these cases involve split families (one of the parents is the perpetrator and the crime is exposed by the other, unoffending parent). Discovery often comes:
  • When attempting to open a savings account or college fund for the child. In this scenario, an unoffending parent discovers that there is already an account with that SSN or that the new account is denied due to a bad check record
  • When numerous pre-approved credit card offers come in the mail in the name of the child
  • When credit cards, checks, bills or bank statements (not opened by a unoffending parent as a joint holder) are sent in the name of the child
  • When collection agencies call or send letters about accounts not opened by the child
  • When a teen is denied the right to get a driver’s license because another person has a license with that SSN as ID. The imposter may even have accumulated tickets or citations in the child’s name
  • While going through papers during a divorce or while straightening up the house (Parental identity theft)
  • When law enforcement comes to the door with a warrant for an arrest of the child