I heard Zig Ziglar say once “Repetition is the mother of learning.”
I’ve been reading a lot of wonderful blogs discussing the nature of why some people succeed and others “fail” in business, or being an entrepreneur, etc. If you are familiar with Neurolingustic Programming (NLP) there is no failure, only feedback.
But we’re not taught this growing up. You failed an exam. You didn’t make the cheerleading club, and so on. You and I learned by repetition good or bad. If you practiced a task, heard a song enough times it’s cemented in your brain – just like learning how to “ride a bike”. It’s the same with your perceived “image” of self. If people said negative things about you enough times, you grew up believing it. “I’ve always been poor at math”, “I’ve always been this way”…
There may be negative life experiences in the past that when recalled or remembered, stimulate emotional associations and behaviors. It’s these associations and feelings that keep you from taking action to move forward in life.
The practice of repeating these experiences over and over again (looping) in your mind is in effect “brainwashing”! Because aren’t you repeating he failure scenario – whatever that was – over and over again in your mind?
I love windy days. And I know why because I associate windy days with my first, incredibly, romantic kiss at dusk on a brisk, beautiful Fall evening. Every time there is a windy day, the sound of rustling leaves, my hair blowing gently across my face, I feel not only wonderful and blissful, but remember the “kiss” as well. I repeat, ”relive” the memory and the feelings triggered by windy days.
Now, advertisers know how important repetition is:
- Repeating a phrase 3x is the magic number in an ad for consumers to remember
- Email 7 or more times to be remembered
- Associate emotion with an ad to be more effective and remembered
- Use humor to be remembered
Hey, wait a minute … are they brainwashing us?
Watch this video …
So how is it advertisers can use repetition and emotions to get you and me to buy products and things we don’t need?
How can you use this same information to learn new behaviors, healthier mindsets about yourself? How can you believe you will achieve your goals, dreams and more?
How to stop “brainwashing” yourself
- For every “I can’t” immediately replace it with “I can”
- ALWAYS recall your successes
- Change your routine
- Be consistent – keep doing the positive stuff, never give up
- Set small achievable goals to ensure success
- Change the word “failure to “feedback” – if something didn’t work out, try a different way and see what happens
- Question where negative feelings about yourself come from. From a memory? Memories are just that. But, they have the incredible power to hold you back. So, is it true for you now, today, in the present moment? If not, see if you can let it go …
Zig is right, “Repetition is the mother of learning”. Start using positive repetition in your mind to reinforce the good things happening in your life and do it consistently – watch what happens.
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Hi Lesly,
love your post.
Wish I had a nice memory like yours for windy day.
Love and Light
Yorinda
Hi Lesly! What a great post! I think it is so easy to brainwash ourselves into thinking negative things. Being positive takes a lot more work and focus. I really like the ways you mention to stop brainwashing yourself. I think a lot of people could use those tips.
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Hi Lesly,
I really enjoyed reading your post. It makes me think of some of things that I do that have helped me build a following on my blog. The constant posting of my latest blog posts, over and over on different groups.
The comments started small but have continued to grow.
I also enjoyed the video, I am new to the TSA and really glad I was able to come across this post.
Have a great day

Tommy D.
MLM Prospecting Hero
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Hi Lesly – I love your tips on how to “re-brainwash” yourself
Especially the one about changing your routine – our routines even if we don’t realize it, are engineered by our thoughts, so changing our routine will trigger us to change our thoughts! Thanks for sharing such a great post!
–Lori
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You’d be surprised how much the routine factor comes into play …
thanks for your visit and comments!
Very good point. I am trying to make my FB, Blog and Twitter page cohesive so you will see the same thing no matter where you go to find me. Working on a cool Twitter background currently. This goes back to your personal brand; define it, stamp it and repeat it often. Thanks for reminding us and, oh yes, thanks for reminding me of the seven e-mail rule. I have heard before it requires nine touches to get someones attention.
Sounds good, I’ll look forward to seeing that! Thanks for the visit!
Lesly,
Thanks for sharing this post on brainwashing yourself, i enjoyed this post and the word “I Can’t” , i buried this Word in my backyard 3 months ago and it felt so good!! It is now I CAN or What Can I Do

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Hi Lesly,
You’ve really made an important point here. The mind is such a powerful thing, get in control of it and the things you can achieve are endless.
I like the idea of ‘there are no failures only feedback’, it is such a positive habit to get into.
Cheers,
Lynn
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Hi Lynn.. it always amazes me how much control over how we think we have.. we just need to learn the skills, practice and apply them… Thank you for your comments!
Wow, I never cease to be amazed by the wonderful post you write. I loved the video also. I meet so many people who seem to thrive on the negatives and my heart goes out to them. One of the best things I ever learned to to was to laugh and often. (especially at myself) It is such a natural stress reliever and really keeps you in a positive mood. Thanks for sharing!!
Hi Chris, thank you for the compliment and your comments! Laughter is on the top of my list too!
Lesly, great post, I try to brainwash myself everyday with positive thoughts. I am learning how to feel my way into positive thoughts as well. Anytime I feel a negative thought try to creep in I immediately replace it with a positive one.
Lori
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Hi Lori,
Thanks for your comment, positive thinking.. it’s a really great frame of mind
Lesly,
Thanks for writing this post , i find the information that you have shared of great value to the people that i connect with and going to pass this on to my tribe. I look forward to reading more from you.
Chris
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Hi Chris
Thank you and I’m glad you liked the post and feel your friends may benefit from it as well