I heard Zig Ziglar say once “Repetition is the mother of learning.”
I’ve been reading a lot of wonderful blogs discussing the nature of why some people succeed and others “fail” in business, or being an entrepreneur, etc. If you are familiar with Neurolingustic Programming (NLP) there is no failure, only feedback.
But we’re not taught this growing up. You failed an exam. You didn’t make the cheerleading club, and so on. You and I learned by repetition good or bad. If you practiced a task, heard a song enough times it’s cemented in your brain – just like learning how to “ride a bike”. It’s the same with your perceived “image” of self. If people said negative things about you enough times, you grew up believing it. “I’ve always been poor at math”, “I’ve always been this way”…
There may be negative life experiences in the past that when recalled or remembered, stimulate emotional associations and behaviors. It’s these associations and feelings that keep you from taking action to move forward in life.
The practice of repeating these experiences over and over again (looping) in your mind is in effect “brainwashing”! Because aren’t you repeating he failure scenario – whatever that was – over and over again in your mind?
I love windy days. And I know why because I associate windy days with my first, incredibly, romantic kiss at dusk on a brisk, beautiful Fall evening. Every time there is a windy day, the sound of rustling leaves, my hair blowing gently across my face, I feel not only wonderful and blissful, but remember the “kiss” as well. I repeat, ”relive” the memory and the feelings triggered by windy days.
Now, advertisers know how important repetition is:
- Repeating a phrase 3x is the magic number in an ad for consumers to remember
- Email 7 or more times to be remembered
- Associate emotion with an ad to be more effective and remembered
- Use humor to be remembered
Hey, wait a minute … are they brainwashing us?
Watch this video …
So how is it advertisers can use repetition and emotions to get you and me to buy products and things we don’t need?
How can you use this same information to learn new behaviors, healthier mindsets about yourself? How can you believe you will achieve your goals, dreams and more?
How to stop “brainwashing” yourself
- For every “I can’t” immediately replace it with “I can”
- ALWAYS recall your successes
- Change your routine
- Be consistent – keep doing the positive stuff, never give up
- Set small achievable goals to ensure success
- Change the word “failure to “feedback” – if something didn’t work out, try a different way and see what happens
- Question where negative feelings about yourself come from. From a memory? Memories are just that. But, they have the incredible power to hold you back. So, is it true for you now, today, in the present moment? If not, see if you can let it go …
Zig is right, “Repetition is the mother of learning”. Start using positive repetition in your mind to reinforce the good things happening in your life and do it consistently – watch what happens.
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Excellent post, Lesly, and what an appropriate video! It really showed me how brainwashed I am – I had no idea.
The fact that we can do this to ourselves for our own benefit, rather than someone else’s, is powerful.
Thanks so much for sharing – I can’t wait to start working with this tool you have given me!
Lesly,
What an excellent post. I loved it all.
It makes so much sense to consciously use the power of repetition to our advantage rather than continuing to only let advertisers and those who aren’t thinking of our best interests to use it to brainwash us.
I’ve never heard of failure being called what it truly is – “feedback”. Why weren’t we taught that before using positive repetition methods??
We have learned so much about proper self-development over the years and it’s so unfortunate that only a few of us are taking the steps to become experts in this required field of study.
Thanks for making a valuable contribution to our training!!
Dawn and (Dave)
Hi Lesly,
Your post is very important to the world I believe! The first step to stop the negative brainwashing is to be aware that it is happening. That’s why I liked what you said about changing any I can’t statements to I can.
You also gave me some insight when you said to change the word failure to feedback. I love that idea and will certainly be implementing that into my mental thought patterns. Thanks.
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Hi Debbie,
Thank you for your post! Makes a BIG difference changing the word “failure” to feedback. You can always look at things differently
Fabulosa Senorita! Excellent thoughts and spot on. No one is immune to negative thinking, it is in the world in which we live so this is a great reminder to take a step back for a moment to retrain those neurotransmitters to reconnect to something much more valuable.
Thank you!
Kellie
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I never thought about e-mail being a way to brainwash us but that makes total sense. Nicely written!
Lesly this is a great post that digs into marketing into someone’s DNA… BRILLIANT !! Association cultivates familiarity … familiarity creates knowing .. knowing creates liking … liking creates trusting ….and trusting creates profitable relationships !!
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Lesly,
Mindset, mindset, mindset! The energy you create through positive thoughts is amazing! You’ve listed great ways to change things up when you feel yourself being pulled down.
Love it,
Val
Great post, programming the mind is a mater of repetition. We must guard what we put into the mind.
You can go back in time and start an ad and others can finish it. Why? Because of repetition.
Bill
Lesly, I truly enjoyed your video post. The old commercials really took me back. Some were from when I was a child; you are right! Repetition works! I particularly hated the “Head-On” commercials, annoying but effective! Thanks for the info!
Deborah
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By thinking positive thoughts, we can really wash the brain of all the negativity. I like that thought.
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Hi Lesly,
Thanks for sharing! Christine
This is such a great topic ~ and you are so right about many of us needing to reprogram our thinking. It took me a long time to realize this, and to slowly start implementing positive self-talk into my life. And, boy has it made a difference! I still have defeats and bad days, yet I believe I can handle them much better, and setbacks for me…well, I have learned, for the most part, to just shrug them off & go on
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Hi Lesly!
I loved your post! We all need to be retaught how to think and live without feeling like failures all the time.
I wonder how we all got so off track! It seems that a lot of times after it’s in our head, we really do become our worst critic instead of our biggest cheerleader!
Thanks Lesly, I love your blog!
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Hey Chris,
and thank you for the compliment!
Thank you for posting! You made my day.. I think back in the day, our parents, teachers, just didn’t know any better. Now we do and have all kinds of research to support positive thinking so…change is slow..
Excellent post!
Visualize and It will materialize.
You are what you think.
Great read Lesly
A very interesting article. I enjoyed the video and all the advertising clips. Whilst agreeing with everything you said, it is hard work turning these negative aspects around isn’t it?
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Hi Joanna,
I know first hand it can be down – I still have my dhare of them, but not as bad as it used to be! Thank you for visiting and posting!
Lesly, great post here and the video was awesome as well. I just need to start putting all these repetitious things I’m learning into practice.
Hey Bill,
Thank you for your comment! I appreciate it
You raise some really great points here…I don’t think I never made the link between NLP and advertising but you got me thinking. Recently I have been learning some of these tools. We have been asked to recreate new grooves (repeated thoughts) to replace and build up new more supportive beliefs now htat we have cracked open some of the ancient unsupportive ones like “I can’t possibly do this”
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Hi Rebecca,
Thank you for your post! Becoming aware of what you say to yourself is so important. Somethings just don’t apply anymore and you have to replace them with new beliefs..
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Lesly – you’ve crafted a good summary of how to deal with negative influences in our lives. You’ve also implied that brainwashing is bad.
However by taking the steps you suggested what will actually happen is Positive Brainwashing. Let’s turn this beast around!
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Hi Stew, thanks for your comment! It depends on how brainwashing is used. It can be bad or good. I suggest one use posistive repetition for posistive brainwashing and break the negative thinking..
I tend to think of brainwashing as a negative thing, and repetition for the sake of becoming better as a good thing. This post is full of rich examples of both — how advertisers use repetition for brainwashing us to buy into their message and products, and how kids (or adults) can use repetition for growing our skill sets.
Turning the negative self-talk into positive self-talk repetitively will only serve us well in the long run. Zig is great…his wisdom is timeless and applicable to so many situations! We can use repetition for good. That’s what he had in mind!
Great post. Inspiring!
Mary Lou
Hi Mary Lou,
thanks for your comment! Repeition is positive – it’s also how we learn and remember things, unfortunately we don’t remember the good things enouh because we tend to focus more on the negative – that’s what we’ve been taught… but it’s starting to shift and that’s a great thing
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Lesly,
A very cool reminder that the negative things people told us in the past, or what we’ve told ourselves, was not true then and is definitely not true today. Belief in ourselves and putting into motion the actions you’ve outlined to move past these thoughts is a huge step in achieving our goals!
Thanks,
~ Pat and Lorna
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You are so right, your past is not your future, or today’s! We are in control of our lives and have the ability to create wonderful lives.. thanks for the visit and the post!
Thanks Lesly for your great advice. Stay positive and turn anything you experience as negative into a positive. If you manage to do that, you will find that you will be much more successful. Negative thoughts are just excuses for why you did not do what you should have done. Thanks for sharing. I can always use a reminder like this.
Hi Karin,
Thanks for your comment! Sometimes those negative thoughts can be excuses to do something which leads to disappointmentd… small successes one by one can turn that around
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